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Growing up in a strong muslim household was all I knew as a little girl. I even dreamt that I would grow to be like my step mother who had lived in Saudi while she studied for a degree in Islamic studies until she met my father and had to return home for their marriage, only I promised to get

Mia is a talented, young, struggling musician who had always felt like she didn’t fit in. She worked really hard to make ends meet and lived in a small, run-down apartment managing her life according to her small income. Her life felt like a constant battle, and she often wondered if she would ever find happiness but she held her

Being different as a child was one of my earliest inductions to how uncomfortable being anything other than societal expectation makes people. I was bullied for playing with the boys instead of my fellow girls, looked at with disgust for walking like a guy, labelled for preferring my brother’s clothes to that of my sisters, for preferring to do carpentry

Growing up was fun but it always bugged me why my Mom would rather I live with my grandmother than with her in the city where I have heard grandma brag about how well she was doing there, considering the amount of money and items she send for my upkeeps I am sure she wouldn’t have any problems if I

The biggest thing that ever happened to me was coming out. It was a Boxing Day morning, I had blurted it to my religious mother who almost had a heart attack. She kept harping on about how my cousins and the kids of her friends were married to nice guys and how I hadn’t even brought a guy home since

I had a hard childhood and it reflected in my behaviour patterns. To give a better background, my mom died while I was 6years old, by my eighth birthday my dad remarried and that became the tail end of everything in my childhood. My step-mom was not mean to me or anything but as a kid, I had nobody who

I  have always known the danger of living as a queer person in Nigeria but I think the danger faced by trans persons is highly underrated and it’s even more painful when you realise your fellow community members are even indifferent to Trans issues and does not see you beyond someone who wants to change their gender for clout and

My mistake was thinking I could save people, that because we are queers alike it was my responsibility to save them. I did this a lot, in relationships and friendships alike for many years until recently but the most outstanding for me would be with my ex-friend Gizzie. I got my first apartment after three months of arriving in Lagos

I did my very best to fit in while growing up, it drained the heck out of me physically and mentally but I fought the good fight. I am a masculine-presenting woman and the first daughter of my parents. Where I come from there are certain values expected of women, especially first daughters. Women were not supposed to be active